In this episode we move our focus to helping someone else with their emotional experiences. Here are some quick notes of the conversation:
- Assess if you care enough about this person to actually help in this moment
- Acknowledge your own emotional bandwidth right now and the capacity you have
- validate 3-5 times what this person is experiencing
- offer a deeper or more vulnerable possibility occurring in their emotional experience right now as well
- Allow the person to choose what part of their experience to focus on and stick with them using validation, simple open ended questions, curiosity, and a willingness to just be there with them as long as it takes
- you can test if they want a resolution by offering a possible solution and seeing if they engage or shoot it down. If they shoot it down, take it as a signal they are not emotionally ready to move to problem solving in this moment
I hope this episode is helpful and more to come in this series!